I walked into the house with a load of groceries in one hand and a pizza in the other. It was too much for one person to carry, but that never stops me.
I can do it myself. I don’t need anyone’s help.
I should have slowed down. Asked my kids to help carry the groceries. Even taken two trips to the car.
But I didn’t. Instead, I decided to carry a too-heavy load. So I proceeded to lose my balance, spill the groceries, and drop the pizza. In a matter of five seconds I had lost both my dinner and my sanity.
Like most working moms, I have an overflowing plate. Admittedly, I am trying to carry too much alone. Spilling the groceries is only a small picture of what’s really going on in my life. I like to pretend that I have things under control, but I really don’t. There are so many balls in the air on a given day that I can’t possibly keep them all afloat. The question isn’t if a ball will drop, the question is which ball will drop.
Being self-reliant is one thing. Being stubborn is another. Yet this self-reliance is often learned by necessity. As women, we feel like we must do it ourselves.
In talking with a good friend this week, she commented on the “lack of community” in our generation.
“Most of us don’t live close to family. We don’t know our neighbors. We don’t have time to be involved in our churches. So we go through life and do it ourselves, because we don’t know any other way.”
Too many working moms are isolated, stressed out, and downright overwhelmed. Is this really what God intended?
Of course not.
The Apostle Paul tells us: “Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2)
There is no substitute for human contact. We need to make time for each other and invest in our neighborhoods and churches. But I also believe there is a role for online community. Why wouldn’t God want us to use technology to come together? Why shouldn’t we encourage each other to unite — not to do it alone — right here and right now?
In the coming months, we’ll be sharing the stories of some of the amazing women who read this blog. My prayer is that we can love and support each other in a growing, online community while encouraging one another to take steps forward in our homes and churches. If you’re feeling alone, take heart. We are in this together. And you weren’t meant to carry all the groceries.
Do you try to carry too much alone? Is your current load too heavy?
God, I confess that I am trying to do it all myself. I have dropped too many balls in mid-air and I need your help. I also need the help of my family, community, and church. I often feel alone and disconnected, and I desperately need to connect. Please open new doors and show me how I can encourage others around me and embrace community.