Working Moms: No Time For Yes?

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This month – February 2015 – we are focusing on a single word:  YES.

Last week, we talked about whether yes has become a dirty word.  This week, we are backing up and asking ourselves a fundamental question:  do we really have time to say yes?

In other words, how can we even have a conversation about saying yes when we don’t have the time?

Instead of empathizing with you — instead of telling you that I know how busy you are, I have walked in your shoes, and I understand you can’t put one more thing on your plate — I’m going to make you mad.  Really mad.  I’m going to say something that we don’t want to hear.

We’re not as busy as we think we are.  Let’s stop complaining about not having enough time to do the things that are really important.  We all have 24 hours in a day.  

There, I said it.  Someone had to say it!  Let’s face it, too many working moms are whining and complaining about not having enough time for the things that are really important – spending time with our kids, investing in our marriages, pursuing a deeper relationship with God.

Every time we whine, we need to stop ourselves and pray.

God, give me wisdom.  You have given me a full life, and I have some tough decisions to make with my time.  Thank you that I’m not bored! Show me how and where to say YES so that I can live the life that you intended .

Are we lacking time, or are we lacking wisdom?  Most days, “yes” becomes a feeling instead of a decision.  Just look at my family on Sunday mornings.  It’s like moving a mountain just to get us to church.    It all starts with me.  I sleep in later than I should.  I think I have more time than I do.  We stayed up too late on Saturday night.  Teenagers like to sleep in.  They beg me for five more minutes.  I give in.  Pretty soon we are running late.  Pretty soon, we have allowed our yes to become no.  It’s not intentional.  We have the time.  We are lacking wisdom, and we allow our feelings to dictate our decision.

We all have time for the things that are important. The truth is, I have lots of time. God knew what He was doing when He put twenty-four hours in a day, seven days in a week, and 365 days in a year. In fact, according to some studies, our generation has more disposable time than any generation in history. We may choose to book our schedules with more stuff than our parents ever dreamed of—like long days at the office, kids’ activities every night of the week, and social calendars that give us new photos to post on Facebook—but at the end of the day it doesn’t mean we have less time.

[excerpts from Chasing Superwoman p. 188]

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Do you find yourself complaining that you don’t have enough hours in the day?  That there is no time for YES?   Will you join me instead in praying for wisdom?

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm an author who writes about the working mom's struggle to live out an authentic Christian faith in a complex and fast-paced world. I live in constant need of grace, caffeine, and technology -- usually in that order.