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Celebrating the Life of My Father: What’s Your Legacy?

The word for May (albeit late) is LEGACY.  We all have a legacy.  If you’re like me, your daily life is more about what needs to get done right now and less about legacy.  But life circumstances have a way of putting things in perspective when they otherwise get out of whack.  Busy women especially need to push the pause button, forget the everyday stress and minutia, and ask — what’s my legacy?

For me, my legacy is deeply tied to my parents.  They remind me of who I am, where I came from, and what’s really important.  This week, I’m celebrating my father’s life and mourning his loss.  You can read his obituary here.  I’ve had the privilege of recording the lessons he taught me through a series of blog posts over the years.   I’m honored to share his legacy over and over again.

How An Old-Fashioned Father Father Raised Five Loyal Daughters

Thanks For Fighting Dad.

 This Father’s Day, Don’t Stop Praying For Your Man

Lessons Learned From My Father’s Illness (Part 1)

Lessons Learned From My Father’s Illness (Part 2)

The Word For April:  Less.

Will We Be 18 In Heaven? 

Our Aging Parents Can Still Teach Us (80th Birthday)

 

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How are you recording (and living out) your own legacy?

Did Your Parents Teach You About Grace?

Teaching a 9-year-old about grace is one thing.  Teaching a teenager about grace is another.  I hope my young daughters don’t repeat a few of my teenage stunts.  But in case they do, I plan to borrow a few scenes from my parent’s play book.  Starting with my father.

Yes, this is the man who struck terror in our hearts with his deep voice and massive hands that would squeeze the back of my neck ever so gently whenever I got out of line.  But even he knew to sprinkle some grace on the journey.  (Either that, or five daughters just wore him down.  As my older sisters say, the youngest always has it the easiest!)

Fortunately, I didn’t get in trouble often.  But when I did, it tended to be with my church youth group.  (Note to parents:  just because your kids are with the church crowd, do not assume they are behaving.)

In a particular lapse of judgment, I decided to “skip” youth group and join my friend I’ll call Mary with her older boyfriend and his football buddy for an R-rated movie.  I didn’t have to get in Mary’s car.  But if you had a choice between riding in a cherry red Mazda RX-7 with a sunroof or an old beat-up church bus, what would you do?

Exactly.

The plan?  We would drive separately and ditch the church bus on the way to miniature golf.  When questioned, we would claim that Mary’s contact fell out of her eye, causing us to pull over and get lost.  And rather than wasting a perfectly good evening, we ended up at the movies. 

Of course, I didn’t get away with it.  When Mary dropped me off at home after the movie, I knew I was busted.  My father wasn’t just waiting for me, he was standing in the garage.  Always a bad sign!

I got out of the car and he asked, “What happened?”

I thought hard about the contact story.  But I just couldn’t do it.  I started sobbing and told him the truth.  The whole truth. 

His response?

“Thank you for telling me the truth.”

No further questions.  No punishment.  No gentle squeeze on the back of the neck.

And we haven’t discussed it since!

How did your parents teach you – or not teach you — about grace?  (I’m thinking about deleting this post so my children don’t use it against me!)

Are You Stuck In The Desert?

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Some of us are ready for a new beginning.  We’re working too much, playing too little, and carrying too much stress.  We’re in a rut and we’re not quite sure what to do next.

I’ve been talking about new beginnings since I started studying Joshua this month.  And I’m really impressed by Joshua for a couple of reasons.  First and foremost, he didn’t get stuck in the desert.

Some of us are stuck in the desert.   So we can learn a few things from Joshua.   Continue reading →

Letting Go Of Supermom: You Can’t Be There For Everything!

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Supermom never misses anything.  She’s at every ballet recital, baseball practice, and school function.  Never mind that she has multiple schedules to juggle, a demanding career, and a full social calendar.  Everything always works out perfectly.  Important events are never scheduled simultaneously, she’s never out-of-town on business at the wrong time, and she never misses a birthday, anniversary, or holiday function with her family. 

I am so not Supermom. Continue reading →

Why Doesn’t He Help?

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Do men intentionally sabotage “woman’s work” so they don’t have to help with the kids?

It’s a question that deserves some discussion. Continue reading →