“Mom, why do you have to travel this week?”
“I won’t be gone long, Abby,” I quickly replied.
“Well, why don’t you tell your boss NO?” she demanded.
“You don’t understand, Abby. I have responsibilities at work. It’s part of my job.”
“Well, why don’t you get a new job?”
At this point, I could tell the conversation was going no where. But I held my tongue and she continued the interrogation.
“Do you want a new job, Mom?”
“Maybe someday, sure.”
“Well, I think you should get a job being a REAL MOM!
“I am a real mom, Abby.”
“No you’re not. You’re never here!” she continued.
“I’m here right now.”
“No that’s not what I mean. You’re never here during the day.”
“But you’re in school during the day. You’re not here either.”
I gave her a big hug and we both laughed. Then she got “sick” the next day at school.
[Fast forward 16 hours. My cell phone rings at work. It’s the school nurse!]
“Hello, this is the school nurse. Abby doesn’t have a fever, but she’s not feeling well. Her teacher thinks she should come home.”
“Ok,” I replied. “Have you tried to call my husband? I’m actually headed out of town for a few days.”
“No, I haven’t called him yet. She wanted me to call YOU.”
Obviously, this child knows how to push my buttons. Apparently, she also knows how to push the school nurse’s buttons. If I was a “Real Mom” maybe I would run to get her, but I made arrangements for my husband to pick her up, left town on schedule, and decided that I would make it up to her on the back end.
As mothers, we always second guess ourselves. If you doubt your identity as a “Real Mom”, take heart. You’re not alone! And while I’m convinced there’s no formula to deal with mommy guilt, I need to constantly remind myself who I am in Christ.
What does the Bible say about our identity in Christ? That we are chosen by God and given a purpose. According to 1 Peter 2:9, “You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness in to his wonderful light”. This is God’s purpose for me. If I compare myself to others, I rob myself of my true identity.
God knows who I am. I am God’s masterpiece! And I am a Real Mom!
Ephesians 2:10 For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. (NLT)